• Positive thinking
• Self-esteem
• Happiness
• Enriched environment
• Oxytocin
• Stimulation
• Feelings
• Sensitivity
• Mindfulness
• Empowerment

All of these go in the bin! But she’s not setting fire to them.
Resilience is far more complex than any of these things might suggest.

It is a construct of the brain.

Sherlock’s mind palace- being able to move through memories is vital.

Self-identity and self-control is far more significant than self-esteem

Walter Mischel’s marshmallow experiment was the closest to resilience research.

Willpower book Students just sitting up straighter and considering their posture lead to higher grades.

Navigating the world in an orderly manner (being tidy) is vital for making a journey successfully.

Grammar is important for resilience. The person who can use grammar effectively can help them get their inside message out more clearly and effectively.

I wonder how many times this lady is going to mention the pre-frontal cortex?

Poetry is less rational- prose is better for helping people’s mental health.

Use of ‘I’- the excessive use of ‘I’ is associated with depression.

You need to belong to something bigger than yourself to be resilient- otherwise you’re just lonely.

If ‘I’ is used in a way that relates to a sense of responsibility then it’s far more useful.

There are differences in men and women’s language. A man who was a nurse was better with synonyms and a woman who was an engineer, despite being very well-read was worse. I’ve no real idea how this related to resilience.

• People need stress- expose them to it. Learning to manage stress is important.
• We need to get young people beyond doing things for reward. They should do things to feel like they belong.
• Don’t demonstrate to young people that you’re being ground down by stress. Share that you’re stressed but not like it’s the end of the world- do it in more of a humorous way.
• Accepting failure is part of life
• Less subjective teaching rather than objective- it is thought that rather than I think
• Share the cause, effect and consequence as well as narrative to help build the hippocampus.
• Turkey, cottage cheese- good for mood.

Brain connectivity- this is what we need to understand more about.

Darwin- the most responsive to change are the ones who survive.

Pursuit of happiness is a fallacy. We end up more unhappy.

We can teach people to behave, physically, in a certain way and that will lead to lots of the things she placed in the bin at the start of the session.

This is a list of everything she said. I have no idea whether to believe any of it as I have zero knowledge of the brain to bring to this. Some of it is interesting though and I plan to spend a bit more time reading around the brain and learning so I can appreciate it more fully and then I’ll be able to judge what to trust.